Monday, 23 February 2015

You Are In Control Of Your Success

It's a necessity that everyone hoping to achieve a sucessful career in the performing arts have to go through. 

It's almost a right of passage that performers must all experience.

You have good ones.
You have great ones.
You have absolutely terrible ones.


With an audition looming upon the horizon for me, I thought I would post a few helpful tips and tricks that you can use for either auditons, interviews, presentations etc. 

1. The outcome is entirely in your control.

Before you enter the room for any of the above mentioned situations, take a moment to inhale and exhale deeply and slowly. Afterwards, remind yourself that every outcome that could possibly come as a result of the next few minutes, is entirely within your control. 
You are the driver of your life and you will steer it in the direction that you want it to go in. 
You need to take control of your universe instead of letting your nerves and emotions take control of you. 
Remind yourself why you are there, who you are doing this for and what you want out of this and you are sure to deliver. 

2. This is your time to shine.

Be it in a crowded audition room, in a group seminar or an individual presentation, this is your moment. 
When you walk into that room, you need to be entirely focused on yourself.

This isn't selfish, this isn't arrogant and this isn't ignorant. What it is, is focused, determined and driven. 

You need to show exactly what you are capable of.
You have worked hard to get there and it is now time for you to show people exactly what you are made of.

You were born to succeed. 

3. Remind yourself of the material.

Im sure you would've probably gone over everything you need to say/do a million times over before even getting there. 

But there is no harm in going over it a million and one times. 

Every little bit of preparation you can do is vital. 

There is nothing worse than approaching one of these situations completely under-prepared and there is nothing better than being over-prepared. So just make sure you do your background work and research in order to be as fully equppied as you can be. 

4. Success is a mindset. 

Imagine you have already achieved what you want, before you have. 

One of my favouite quotes is by Lady Gaga:

"I've felt famous my whole life"

She felt like she had already achieved success before she was anywhere near it. She lived her life believing she was successful and I truly believe that help contribute to her success.

Her mindset became her reality.

If success is your mindset, success will become your reality.

5. Breathe.

One of the most important things you can do, is breathe.

Just take some time to breathe all your worries away.

Close your eyes.
Remind yourself of everything I have just spoken about.
Exhale, open your eyes and welcome a new world and mindset where nothing is able to prevent you from success. 

Breathing is something we all do without giving it any thought. It's a completely unconscious action that we all do in order to keep walking the earth. So take some time to appreciate it's wonders.
I might sound crazy, but trust me, nothing is more successful at combatting nerves as a few simple deep breaths.

Ultimately, your success lies within you.

The sooner you realise that you are in control of your success, the sooner you will start to believe you can and will succeed.


Monday, 16 February 2015

Second Position: Demi

I thought I knew what the phrase "Time Flies" meant.

Three years of University seemed to go by in an instant and suddenly, I was approaching my seat after picking up my First Class Degree at our graduation ceremony. 

However, I don't think time has ever gone this fast for me.

I started this blog, this journey, this diary of my thoughts and feelings as I began my very first steps into post-university life. I was blessed enough to have been given the opportunity to train at the Urdang Academy from September 2014 - April 2015 and so, because this was such a poignant time in my life, I decided I would write down everything so I could share my journey with you.

Now I know that a lot of my posts seem completely random and somewhat not particularly linked with my journey, but to be honest, the beauty of these posts is that they have all been inspired by something that I have encountered on my travels.

It could be an article in the Metro.
It could be an overheard conversation from a fellow commuter on the 06:37am train from Three Bridges to Farringdon.
It could be a motivational speech from one of our lecturers. 

Each and every post that I have written has come from an organic stimulus.

I don't write just for the sake of writing, I write because I am inspired to do so and I hope to inspire others to do the same.

And all of my posts have a link to certain moments of my journey so far. I could go back on each and every single post and tell you exactly what inspired me to write it.

In order to continue this, I am now weiting to tell yoy that I have come to quite a pivotal point in my time at Urdang.

We, as a cohort, have been intensely training since September 2014 for the moments that are just around the corner. 

1) Auditions
2) The showcase

Our entire few months of training have been leading up to these points.

Let me just clarify, for those who don't know, the course that I am on is the foundation course. A course that is designed to polish up the talented to a standard where they are above and beyond capable of getting into a drama school for three years of further training.

So now is the time that all of our auditions for the above mentioned drama schools are coming to pass.

Honestly, it still feels like it was only two weeks ago that I nervously approached the Urdang Academy with a bag full of dance gear and determination, raring to start the next few months of my life.

And now all we have been working towards is literally a stones throw away.

We have a week off of college now, which we are all in desperate need of.

And when we return, it is time to come away from the bar, stop doing corner exercises and begin extreme hard work on our end of year showcase.

This is the time I have been looking forward to the most.

A time to celebrate all the hard work we have put into achieving what we want.

And I can't wait to have the honour and privilege to share the stage with some of the most beautiful and talented people I have ever had the pleasure to get to know.

These past few months have flown by and I can't wait to share with you the next few exciting weeks.


Friday, 13 February 2015

Just Another (Valentine's) Day

It's one day of the year that divides everyone into one of two categories.

You're either single.
Or you're not.

Valentine's Day.

The shops get flooded with an abundance of quite frankly tacky, sickening, overpriced items that are meant to show how much you love someone. 
Images of hearts, people kissing, idealistic romantic settings etc get plastered all over the place.
And a flood of either synical status' expressing how much "I hate valentines day it's such an over commercialised day" and that "If you truly love someone you should love them every single day of the year" not to mention the " I'm so single i'm going to buy 100 cats" ones that pop up too. Or a soppy status expressing their overwhelming love for someone, that they have decided to not write down in a personal card to that person, but plaster online for all to read. Pop up all over our timelines/newsfeeds/dashboards etc.

Yes. Before the day is even upon us, we're already sick of it. 

Being in a long-term relationship for the past three, nearly four, years I obviously haven't had a "Single Valentine's Day" for a while.

Before that, I was single for the majority of valentines days that I have lived through. 

And do you want to know something absolutely mind-boggling? 

There's no difference.

For all the people out there who feel like they are missing out because they are not with someone for one day of the year, opposed to the other 364 days, you really aren't.

So what, you might be exposed to images, words, gifts etc of love and how supposedly fantastic it is to be in a relationship. But as soon as you start longing for someone else instead of living for yourself, is the moment that you are losing yourself. 

Now don't get me wrong, I'm wholeheartedly over the moon with my relationship. But I don't understand why people feel it necessary to do one of two things:

1) Either show how much they hate valentine's day because they are single and don't have anyone to share it with. And then suddenly change their opinion when they do find someone

2) Or as couples, buy into the whole idea of it.

Why do I need to prove that I love my other half on one day of the year over any other day?

From what I have seen, the people who complain the most about the commercialism of valentine's day is people who are single. But I think until you are in a relationship and you are able to make that decision for yourself with experience on both sides, you can't really complain about it.

The main thing that gets to me around valentine's day, is the couple bashing that occurs from single people. Don't get me wrong, I agree that it is a completely pointless day and that if you love someone, you don't need a singular day to prove this. But don't hate it just because you don't have that someone. Also if a couple has decided that they want to take valentine's day to show some extra appreciation, then don't hate on them just because you don't have the opportunity to do so at the moment.

Valentines' day is supposedly about love.

Love is all around you.

Your family. 
Your friends. 

Just because you're not in a relationship doesn't mean you need to be completely and utterly against it. 

For example, since we were little, me and my best friend Hollie have always bought each other a small gift. Just to show our appreciation and love for each other. To this day, we still knock on each others doors, leave the gift and run away to make it "mysterious" even though we know exactly what's going on. 

I guess ultimately, valentine's day is what you make of it.

Companies make way too much money from it for it ever to not be a "thing". 

So you can either fully envelop yourself into that world, or you can not.

Being in a relationship shouldn't change this. And being single shouldn't mean you have to hate the day.

It is, after all, just another day. 


Friday, 6 February 2015

Surround Yourself With Inspiration

Surround yourself with the types of people who inspire you to be the best person you can be. 

Before I went to University, I was a little bit obsessed with wanting to be liked.
I hid my true self because I thought that, if I were honest, then I would be less-liked by other people.
I surrounded myself with people who I thought were well-liked and acted the way they acted because I wanted to be well-known and well-liked.

I was embarrassed to be myself. 

I think a lot of people, whether they care to admit it or not, try to be someone else to impress the people around them. 
We become so obsessed with being "one of the popular kids" that begin to lose who we truly are.
And more often than not, those who do remain true to themselves are victims of unjust ridicule and bullying throughout most of their school lives. 

But that all changed when I went to University.

I went on a three year journey that has not only taught me a number of things to do with the career path that I have chosen, but it also provided me with a personal journey that I will be eternally grateful for. 

There is a select group of people that I met at Winchester University, who quite frankly provided me with a whole lot more than just three years of incredible friendship.

I don't think they realise that they provided me with a whole lot of personal growth.

It wasn't necessarily anything they did. 
It wasn't necessarily anything they said.

All it was, was just that they were there being themselves.

They didn't particularly care who liked them around University. They didn't try to impress anyone.

They were completely and utterly true to themselves. 

And that is something that I needed in my life.

I needed to just grow up and be proud of who I was, not only sexuality wise, but with my personality as well. 

They unknowingly provided me with the strength to surround myself with positivity and inspiration from these three years onwards. 

And for that, I will be eternally grateful beyond words.

This lesson that they have taught me, has transposed itself not only into my journey through the Urdang Academy, but also in my choice of friendships in everyday life. 

I don't have a lot of friends, i'm okay with that.
Because the people who are truly my friends are people that I wish to be successful in whatever they choose. 
They are people who I would move the heavens and the earth to ensure they are happy.

And these are the types of people that I kept in mind when going to Urdang. 

There is an overwhelmingly large amount of talent bursting out of the Urdang Academy.

And I am so grateful to be completely enveloped by it every single day.

The people that I am friends with on my course are not only my friends because they have extraordinary personalities. But each and every single one of them inspire me to become a better performer and person every single day. There is not a moment where I am envious of them. When they dance/act/sing I get an overwhelming sense of pride. I am fighting their corner for success right behind them and I would do anything and everything in my power to make sure they get there. Because I believe in them. I may be the only one, but I'm proud to stand there and say that I do. 

The past three years of my life have taught me to surround myself with people who inspire me to achieve greatness.

Don't bother with the types of people who are likely to be envious of your success. And on the other side, don't bother with people who, if they succeed, you are likely to be envious of.

There is way too much jealousy and bitterness in this world that it is hard to find people who provide you with inspirational positivity. 

So when you find these people, fight hard to keep them in your lives. 

I am so thankful to have been taught these lessons.
I am beyond grateful to the people who have unknowingly taught me these lessons.

And I hope that anyone reading this takes inspiration to surround themselves with the types of people who inspire you to be the best person you can be.